Be good selfish and touch lives.

Right from day one, we are seasoned to think good and think about others first. Still we would sometimes end up in a heated discussion with a friend over a point of view. Should we always put ourselves second and others first? Well, the line could be thin because to be or not to be selfish is determined by the situation or the phase of life we are in.

As adults we are running in an insane race where we often want what others have but we ignore the fact if we really NEED what others have? Could it be that we are focusing our energies only into how others' life is looking from the outside? In this daily comparison we sometimes lose our true selves and forget what we really LOVE.

It’s extremely imperative to love what you do and do what you love. Hence, thinking about YOU is the foremost step to experience abundance in life. Once you understand your desires, you plan your tomorrow with greater certainty. There are various roles of life where selfishness proves as a way forward towards contentment.

Let’s talk about child-parent expectation, it’s not very uncommon for parents to sometimes push their kids to pick a particular career option. They unknowingly or knowingly want the child to fulfil their long lost dream while they remain oblivious to the fact that the child may want something completely different. But at the end if the kid can't deliver to that expectation, he/she picks up another option and hence invariably becomes more accountable. This is a good Selfish.

We are constantly pitched against others in everyday scenarios. We are often encouraged to take up hobbies or pursue activities that guarantee good money and are easy to follow. But when you pay no heed to what others want us to do and in fact do as per our skillset and desires for  our happiness then.....Guess what? Good Selfish again!

Selfishness can sometimes act as a disguise to:

Contentment – The more satisfied you are, the more productive your mind becomes.

Happiness – The happier you are, the more happiness you spread.

Self- assurance – The more confident you are, the more hunger to achieve greater goals.

Self-belief – The more belief you have in you, the more challenges you overcome.

Positive – The more positive you are, the more health benefits you reap.

So GOOD SELFISHNESS leads to making your own decisions, picking what you love and feeling much more accountable for your future.

However, none of this is a complete endorsement of selfishness. Selfish does not mean uncaring about others feelings or hurting them knowingly.

It’s about the power to say “No” at times and take full responsibility for your actions.

Use a little selfishness to increase your enjoyment and improve your ability to be there for the people in your life. By thinking of you first, you can benefit others.

Seek to find the ideal balance between focusing on you and focusing on others. Set aside time each day to spend on you. The benefits you receive will also benefit the people in your life. Everyone will ultimately be grateful for your selfishness.

Posted By : shilpa sharma